Been attending this church a few weeks now. Falls within the popular, posh, well air-conditioned, properly organised, and predominantly filled with youth/young professionals genre; located right in the heart of the Federal Capital Territory.
Although initially introduced by a cousin who is in absolute awe and very well pleased of her discovery, I finally accept to attend when a friend invites me to their conference in the hope that we’d meet up afterwards to chat over dinner/a few drinks. I must confess the dinner/drinks were more enticing than being seated in a congregation of complete strangers under the anointing of a man I knew not nor had heard not of. Fortunately, the Word was good and repentantly, I revisited to attend subsequent services.
Having done that faithfully for weeks, sis dearest comments to my mother “We are waiting to see the man she will bring from there”. I do not remember any conversation with her or any other outlining that an item on my church attendance agenda. Apparently, a single attending a youth/predominantly singles gathering frequently must be on some coded mission to return ‘hooked’. Like the church has some hidden mission statement to all singles that walk through its doors “Come as you are and you will never return the same”.
It is not unusual to spring into rash conclusions without taking a minute to delve facts. However, this often results in absolutely wrong conclusions and has the potential of ruining once pleasant relationships.
Some of such scenarios off the top of my head (you may add to it):
- A phone call/visit to someone you have not been in touch with for some time INTERPRETED AS your needing a favour (the recipient usually responds saying “What do you want?”, “You called me! Is something wrong?” etc
- A random nice gesture from the opposite sex INTERPRETED AS a ‘move’; the initial step into wooing
- Someone in the latest car/designer outfit/hair extensions/house(s) in choice areas etc INTERPRETED AS rich enough for financial support. Where such requests are declined the person making the requests is quick to hurl miserly, mean and selfish remarks
- Outbreaks of famine, sickness, poverty, natural disasters etc INTERPRETED AS the nonexistence of God. If He did exist why all the peril? Or maybe He just does not care??
Before jumping into conclusions and declaring your verdict(s), it is only fair to properly assess the situation. You owe it to yourself, at least. Is that rash conclusion worth severing your relationships?
Save yourself the headache, sleepless nights and unnecessary depression; ASK, don’t jump!
*Jump (verb) /juhmp/
A Nigerian slang meaning presumptuous
Quick to assume/conclude